As always, it will have been enough of a photo to set fire to the powders. While Prince Harry and his wife Meghan Markle appeared in front of the Balmoral gates to pay tribute to Queen Elizabeth II, who died a few days ago, the Duchess of Sussex’s belly was pointed out. A slight bulge suggests, according to Internet users, a pregnancy. But should we really play guessing games and assume that the slightest baby bump is proof of a birth in prospect?
“Meghan Markle is pregnant!” This sentence, a few days after the death of Queen Elizabeth II, is on everyone’s lips, in the press and on social networks. However, no announcement has been made on the part of the main interested party, nor of her spouse. This is pure and simple speculation inspired by a photo captured in front of Balmoralwhere the Duke and Duchess of Sussex reunited with Kate Middleton and Prince William to pay their respects to the late sovereign.
In the photo, Meghan Markle’s tight black dress reveals an almost invisible bulge, which could actually look like the beginning of a baby bump, but which could also have 1000 other meanings, ranging from a hearty breakfast to periods resulting in a swollen uterus, or even simple bloating. But the general public has become so accustomed to seeing only flat, smooth bellies that the slightest relief leads to often unwelcome comments.
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Let women talk about their pregnancy whenever they want
Pregnancy is something intimate, very personal, even if the announcement of an upcoming birth is considered a happy event. Unfortunately, once a person is pregnant, their body seems to fall even further into the public domain. All the people who have already experienced a pregnancy have testified to the attitude of these strangers who wanted to touch their belly, comment on their weight gain, give their opinion on the future first name, education, or even on the person’s diet. who is expecting a baby.
On the side of the stars, some, like Kylie Jenner, preferred keep their pregnancy a secret, and this is increasingly the case. Their objective: to protect themselves in this sometimes complicated period, and to be able to take advantage of this unique moment. But these women have all been criticized as if they’ve “deprived” their audience of something they should have shared. However, there are many reasons for concealing a pregnancy, whether it is to benefit from a minimum of peace of mind or to preserve one’s sanity, or even out of fear, in case something happens to the baby.
The fear of a natural termination of pregnancy
The case of Meghan Markle is particularly telling. Mother of two, Archie and Lilibeth, the former actress and her husband did everything to protect their children from the harmful attention of the paparazzi. But the Duchess of Sussex also shared why she had been so careful and waited before announcing she was pregnant. After the birth of her eldest son, she made a natural termination of pregnancy. Wednesday, November 25, 2020, in the columns of New York TimesMeghan Markle had spoken in a forum, and revealed to have had a miscarriage a few months ago, a year after the birth of his son Archie. She was in the company of the latter when she started to feel bad: “After changing her diaper, I felt a strong cramp (…) I knew, when I was hugging my first child in my arms, that I was losing the second.”
She said then: “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but which few people talk about”, and evoked her decision to speak about this taboo subject, “covered with an unjustified feeling of shame, perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.” The opportunity for her to support people who have chosen to recount their perinatal bereavement, as was the case for Chrissy Teigen : “Some had the courage to tell their stories: they thus paved the way, knowing that by telling the truth they would allow others to do so too.” Giving pregnant people the choice to announce (or not) their pregnancy means giving them control of their own narrative. But obviously, it’s not so obvious to everyone.
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“Every time I’m bloated, those around me think I’m pregnant”
Faced with comments on the alleged “baby bump” of Meghan Markle, many Internet users have taken the floor to denounce these speculations. “If they think Meghan is pregnant, they should see me after a meal,” some people commented on social media. A situation well known by Eléa, 27: “I have major digestion problems. All I have to do is eat something for me to find myself with a swollen stomach. In public transport, people give up their seats to me. and ask me “When is it? Pointing to my stomach. Each time, I want to answer that it will pass once I go to the bathroom… Even those around me don’t seem to have learned the lesson since my uncles and aunts regularly ask me if I’m pregnant, when I’m only bloated.”
For the young woman, this testifies to a form of sexism deeply rooted in our patriarchal society. “Women’s bodies have always been much commented on, and thinness is still considered the norm. So, rather than imagining that a woman could not have a flat stomach for a thousand and one reasons, we prefer to imagine that She’s pregnant. Every time this happens to me, I feel like I’m being pulled back into how society sees me: like a womb, a laying hen whose sole purpose should be to give birth“People can’t imagine the violence of these comments,” confirms Marine, 37. The young woman is sterile, but always dreamed of having a baby. “It is enough that my belly is a little swollen for me to be asked about a potential pregnancy. The people in question have no bad intentions, obviously, but for me who cannot give birth, it is just turn the knife in the wound.”
So the next time you feel like speculating about a pregnancy, whether it’s that of a star or someone close to you, think about how your comment might be received.